Love, Self-Love and Soul Connections

As quoted by Rane W. Stone

A soul connection is a resonance between two people who respond to the essential beauty of each other’s individual natures, behind their facades, and who connect on this deeper level. This kind of mutual recognition provides the catalyst for a potent alchemy. It is a sacred alliance whose purpose is to help both partners discover and realize their deepest potentials.

While a heart connection lets us appreciate those we love just as they are, a soul connection opens up a further dimension ~ seeing and loving them for who they could be, and for whom we could become under their influence.

This means recognizing that we both have an important part to play in helping each other become more fully who we are. A soul connection not only inspires us to expand, but also forces us to confront whatever stands in the way of that expansion.

The more two people open to each other, the more this wide-openness also brings to the surface all the obstacles to it: their deepest, darkest wounds, their desperation and mistrust, and their rawest emotional trigger points. Just as the sun’s warmth causes clouds to arise by prompting the earth to release its moisture, so love’s pure openness activates the thick clouds of our emotional wounding, the tight places where we are shut down, where we live in fear and resist love.

The light of unconditional love awakens the dormant seed potentials of the soul, helping them ripen, blossom, and bear fruit, allowing us to bring forth the unique gifts that are ours to offer in this life.” ~John Welwood

“I think if someone were to simply say, “List the things you love,” the average person wouldn’t even think to name himself or herself because they are not a thing.

If you were asked this, maybe you wouldn’t list yourself because the question is verbally set up as naming external things. Or maybe you did think about naming yourself, but you didn’t know if that would be allowed. Since you weren’t sure, you didn’t want to ask, because if you asked you may fear being judged. And even worse, if you said myself, you may be perceived as being arrogant. Feelings of judgment, fear, shame, and embarrassment might arise.

Why is this? Why are we fearful of admitting that we love ourselves? Why is there such a taboo around self-love? Why do we get that uncomfortable feeling when we say we love ourselves, maybe even feeling like we shouldn’t have just said that?

Loving myself has saved my life. And not only that, it has enriched it. So much so that I make an effort every day to give myself compliments, do things that make me happy, and stay as resilient as possible, even in terrible circumstances.

Life doesn’t have to be easy or fun or good to love yourself. That may be what is so great about it. I believe it is all about attitude. There is always an upside, even if you can’t see it in the moment. When you feel like you can’t move on, keep your head up, and if you feel like you can’t lift your head, keep walking.

Just. Keep. Going. Because you are worth it, I am worth it, she is worth it, he is worth it.

You have something no one else does, I guarantee it. Whether it’s a special talent, an invention, or the way you make your grandpa laugh, there is something you should love about yourself.

Self-love is the foundation and core of life. Self-confidence, self-worth, and self-respect all make up the abundance of what self-love is all about. The exact definition may vary from person to person, but it holds tight to those three values.

I hope by now you have put on those shoes and asked yourself the question: How long would it take you to say ‘myself’?

Now I want to ask another question. You love yourself, okay, but how do you show it? How do you show that you love yourself on a daily basis? What actions are you taking to show self-love? You can talk the talk, but can you walk the walk?

I deserve life, and that is self-love.

Self-love is something we deserve. It is a human right that unfortunately not everyone has.

It takes work. It takes self-reflection and a self-inventory. It should not be something we take for granted, yet it shouldn’t feel so completely out of reach as it is for so many people. It should not be embarrassing or shameful. It should not be rebellious to have self-love. We should question that.

We should encourage others to love themselves without getting confused, thinking that loving others can take the place of loving themselves. This is a common misconception that can have serious consequences.

You deserve to be loved by yourself. When you do, there can be a great feeling of empowerment and happiness that can only come from an internal love. It might be one of those things where you know it when you feel it. But don’t be afraid to start taking action to get there and show yourself some love.

Maybe you will start small and give yourself that Netflix break in between homework assignments. Or maybe you will tackle something bigger like following your dreams.

Whatever you choose, I urge you to ask yourself the question: If I were to list the things I love, how long would it take me to say ‘myself’? Do this every year, every month, every day. Keep your self-love in check.

Take my word for it. When you love yourself, the world is a much more beautiful place. And when you find that self-love, don’t be afraid to share it and set an example. Scream it from the rooftops without shame or fear of judgment.

I love myself!

And I want everyone to know it.”

~Arielle Sokoll-Ward

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